20 Things that Belong On Everyone’s TO-DON’T List


  1. Don’t be lazy. – The world doesn’t owe you anything; you owe the world something.  So stop daydreaming and start DOING.  Develop a backbone, not a wishbone.  Replace laziness with determination.  Laziness is being unable to find the time you have.  Determination is being able to find the time you don’t have.
  2. Don’t cower from life’s necessary challenges. – We work hard to discard the parts of our lives that were painful, difficult, or sad.  But just as we can’t rip chapters out of a book and expect the story to still make sense, we cannot rip past chapters out of our lives and expect our lives to still make sense.  Keep every chapter of your life intact, and keep on turning the pages one at a time.  Sooner or later you’ll get to a page that brings it all together, and you’ll suddenly understand why every page and chapter before it was needed.
  3. Don’t just take the default path. – Be a voice, not an echo.  Speak your truth, even if your voice shakes.  Find the courage to bring your ideas and dreams to life.  Don’t compare your progress with that of others.  We all need our own time to travel our own distance.  It’s perfectly OK to be different.
  4. Don’t wait for the perfect time. – There’s never really a right time for anything in life.  There’s always going to be something in the way, someone coming to visit, someone leaving soon, the time of the year, the weather, the money, your mother, your brother, etc.  Whatever it is, there will always be something or someone whispering, “Now is not the right time.”  Do it anyway.  Don’t wait for the perfect time; it doesn’t exist.
  5. Don’t put on a mask. – You can’t let people scare you.  You can’t go your whole life trying to please everyone else.  You can’t go through life worried about what everyone else is going to think.  Whether it’s your hair, your clothes, what you have to say, how you feel, what you believe, or what you have…  You can’t let the judgment of others stop you from being YOU.  Because if you do, you’re no longer YOU.  You’re just someone everyone else wants you to be.
  6. Don’t hide your humanness. – Sometimes you have to deal with issues and show others your awkward, uncomfortable side.  It’s perfectly okay – it’s a natural part of being human.  And the good news is that these tough moments will often show you who will accept you at your worst and who won’t.
  7. Don’t make everything seem like a chore. – Life is a privilege; act like it.  Instead of feeling like you “have to” do so much, incredible shifts in energy levels, happiness, and effectiveness can happen when we focus on the fact that we ”get to” do all of these things in our lives.
  8. Don’t try to conquer everything in a single leap. – Isn’t it funny how day by day nothing changes, but when you look back everything is different?  Remember, the journey of a thousand miles begins with one step.  So just take one tiny step today.  You won’t regret it.
  9. Don’t focus on past problems. – Never let the ghosts you knew in the past overcrowd the possibilities of the present or have you over-complicating everything in the future.  In life, the test often comes first, before the lesson.  Take a deep breath and think… Your past was never a mistake if you learned from it.
  10. Don’t think about what could have been. – Chances are if it should have been, it wouldn’t have been.  So say it out loud:  “There was another life that I might have had, but I am having this one.”

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